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Self Pity – Set Yourself Free from It


Today I heard a news that immediately made me pity myself. It is about something that is going on in my closest community. I felt like I was left alone… and started to think that I had to prepare myself to stand alone… and I felt I need time to be alone with God and cry. If I alone, I would surely cry right away. But since I live with my friend, I hold my feeling and act as if there is nothing happen.

At first I didn’t realize that what I indulged in is self pity… until I recognize that what I feel is wrong (not in line with the truth). As soon as I recognize this old pattern, I googled to search about self pity and found some interesting articles. I posted my conclusion about self pity on my Facebook status:

Self pity is a misdirected mind which drawn our attention to ourselves instead of God (Romans 12:2)
Don’t indulge in self pity, turn and fix your eyes only on Him (Hebrew 12:2)
…’cause He has called you and He will always be with you (Matthew 28:18-20)

These are the verses:
Romans 12:2 => “Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is – His good, pleasing, and perfect will.”
Hebrew 12:2 => “Let us fix our eyes on Jesus, the Author and Perfecter of our faith, who for the joy set before Him endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God.”
Matthew 28:18-20 => “… All authority in heaven and on earth has been given to Me. Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, and teaching them to obey everything I have commanded you. And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age.”

These are some of the article quotes I found:

Every circumstance is brought before you and allowed by God’s own hand and you have a decision to make. Your attitude of heart chooses your actions. Your attitude of heart forces you to make a choice and to take an action.

You can choose to believe God’s Word what He has said to you or you can choose the attitude of sin: your old way of taking action.

Is the old way to say “I can’t do it” or “I’m not worth it” or “It’s not fair”?
What is it you decide in your mind when you are confronted with a given circumstance?
That it is hopeless? Or they don’t care or even to judge another? It is your attitude of heart that forces your mind to that decision or choice.

Do you begin to see now that in your heart you are in disbelief of God and His Word to you?

You bring that attitude of sin into your mind and thoughts and the action you take soon follows.
It is sin at the beginning (disbelief) and it is sin as a result wither it be self-pity or pride or any other sin.

Self-pity is one of the main weapons that our enemy uses to stop us.

Self-pity is the strongest evidence of a mind completely misdirected. God never intended our minds to be on ourselves.

When I allowed myself to be filled with self-pity, I was worthless to the Lord. I was paralyzed with my eyes on ME. Until I set my mind on HIM, nothing was going to happen in the power of the Spirit of Christ within me.


So, that’s it… I no longer feel the urge to cry, pitying myself in front of Him… He wants me to live in His truth and have faith in His Words of truth, and that’s what I’m gonna do forward. Thank you for reminding me Holy Spirit 🙂

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